cutting associations

there are times when i want to tell my husband's friends/acquaintances who take advantage of him to take a hike. if the filipinos have a bad trait known as crab mentality, the westerners have the term leech.

i know my husband's definition of a friend is someone who will be there thru thick and thin-- especially when you need them the most. but i don't understand if he wants that to be just his attitude and not something that the other person should reciprocate!

my husband has been a bad boy for a long time, he's reformed now. but since he can relate to bad boys, he has friends that are still being bad. i don't even want to call them his friends because they only seem to be there when they need something from my husband. but when we need help there are only a handful of people willing to extend a hand, and i am grateful for these persons.

recently a friend botched up a project because he was an immature 40+ year-old with a girlfriend who thinks they're still rich even though they don't even have a decent roof over their heads. and i thought he had decided to end the association then and there because he realized that this friend he was trying to reform was a lost cause.

but then this person had the audacity to creep back into our lives! a little bit a time, making excuses to get back into it. and my husband, who has a generous heart to a fault, is just letting him back in. without thinking that this friend is a leech and with every favor he grants him, he will come back more and more and conveniently ensconce himself in our lives.

i despise this person because he took advantage of the man i love and did not exhibit one bit of remorse! i despise him because he puts my husband in danger constantly just by being around him. i despise this person because i know my husband wants to reform him, and he is using my husband shamelessly for his own gain. he is a selfish person who preys on my husband's kindness. he is arrogant and thinks that he is entitled to things without earning them, i think he's a racist although my husband does not believe so.

he thinks he's better than my husband who has 2 bachelor's degree, great leadership quality and a great spirit. excuse me! compared to my husband, he is a very very very small man who continuously buries himself deeper and deeper into perdition when he has a son who needs him to be there for him!

i know i seem judgmental, but these have been my observations from the time i knew this man and saw how he treated my husband. i do not wish him ill really, i just want him out of our lives! is that wrong of me?...