After Angelology reading the book,
Love the One You're With
by
Emily Giffin
, felt like a denouement. Coming from a world of symbolisms, saving the world and the grandeur of angels - this book about everyday life and relationships seemed very simple to me.
I was intrigued by it years ago, I love Emily Giffin's
titles
- it just pulled you in through curiosity. And I was curious about Giffin's writing style compared to
Sophie Kinsella
since they both wrote what I assumed was chick lit. They are very different apparently.
I find Kinsella's style highly entertaining. She finds ways for her character to not take themselves too seriously - injecting humor at even the direst situations. Giffin's style is very analytical - or maybe it is just her character, Ellen, in this novel. More often than not the lead character in Giffin's story is analyzing how she feels or what's going on around her - like she's having a conversation with herself. The story is about her internal struggle more than anything exciting happening. I found
Love the One You're With
builds and builds in anticipation of a great climax - then right before it gets there - it's curtailed by a not very convincing epiphany and goes downhill from there. I think although there were a lot of analyzing in the book - that the decision Ellen made in the end was not supported by enough analyzations to justify what happened. It was a sudden-lifting-of-the-fog moment, the trance is broken with the snap of a finger type of realization. Because of how analytical Ellen is throughout the book, you'd expect her to have a long-winded discussion with herself about choosing her husband - but it was not there.
Don't get me wrong, I agree with the heroine's decision to stay with her husband - but I find the "loving two people" conclusion faulty. You can only love one person with the love that is reserved for a husband - the longer you stay together - the more you forget all the ones who "got away" - the more you fall in love with the one you're with.
That's how I feel, anyway. My husband constantly surprises me with his gestures of affection. I find myself in awe of how deeply he loves me - finding out from his actions more than his words. When I started reading this novel I thought it would remind me of someone from my past, instead I found myself thinking about my husband - the younger version of him when he was getting into all kinds of trouble - I found myself wondering what it would have been like loving that young troublemaker, knowing him at that stage in his life. In a sense, the only person I could think of that I'd alternatively be with is my husband - in his bad-boy stage - there's just something about that man!
When you marry your soul mate - there will be no regrets, no could have beens and definitely no settling. Just love, happiness, a dash of annoyance from time to time - and pure contentment. Spice up your love story today - spend quality time with the one you love - who is hopefully also the one you're with.